He's Just Not That Into You

My studio is still in a mess. But who cares! I did myself a favour . I went to meet-up with an old friend for coffee instead of killing myself over packing, filing and memories. I declared it to be "Victims Day" thus giving myself the permission to be an absolute victim of my own plight and moan, bitch but no-kill over it.

And as it turns out, it was not as bad as I thought it would be. For the first time in a month, I saved myself the embarrassment of unexpected waterfalls when talking about Mr T and the big "B". I guess my good friend, Mr A, has a way of getting me to talk about it without the tsunami. Phew! Any more tears and I will have to contemplate hanging a bucket permanently around my neck.

So in the midst of all our yadas, we hit an interesting topic on 'attraction cycle':

Me: "Hey! You know I've said this before... but you always end up with the same kind of girls, same type of relationships! It's always soooo.... complicated...."

Mr A gave me an analysis of his recognition on the why, what and how of his 'attraction cycle'.

Me: "In retrospect to that, I realise that I do end with the same type of guys."

Mr A: "And that is?"

Me: "Inexperienced in relationship....erm.... wimps?"

I broke out in my notorious boisterous laugh.

Me: "Ok ok... I'm joking about the wimp part. But yeah, inexperienced in relationships."

Mr A diagnosed my 'attraction cycle' and it was an interesting take on it I must say! But this struck me the most, "There's a fine line between quiet and quiet-confident.... "

Goldfish syndrome (mouth open, mouth close).

Quiet-confident. Hmmm.... reminds me of someone I met recently and boy was I drawn to that quiet-confident type energy....

Like a primary school kid, I started asking Mr A a whole lot of questions about men and the laws of attraction. I've always assumed, but never really asked. Very interesting hearing from a man's perspective and the "timeline of action" which indicates whether the attraction is on or off. I couldn't stop laughing hearing all that! Great stuff, Mr A!

Finally he said to me, "Have you watched "He's Just Not That Into You?"

Me: "Huh?"

Mr A: "He's Just Not That Into You... it's a movie but it's based on a book."

Me: "No. I have not watched or read the book. What is it about?"

And he gave me the synopsis. Sounds interesting.... we started debating whether I should read the book or watch the movie first. Next thing I knew, I was heading to the nearest mall to go buy the book! Well, actually, we had to make a detour to my home to pick up my wallet before going to the mall. I forgot to bring wallet out! Not too bright. Ha!

So looks like it's book first then movie!

He's Just Not That Into You is a self-improvement book written by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo that was published in 2004. It was a New York Times bestseller and was featured on The Oprah Winfrey Show.

The book was inspired by an episode of Sex and the City titled "Pick-A-Little, Talk-A-Little," in which Miranda asks Carrie's boyfriend, Jack Berger, to analyze the post-date behavior of a potential love interest. Because the man declined Miranda's invitation to come up to her apartment after the date, stating that he has an early meeting, Berger concludes, "He's just not that into you," adding, "When a guy's really into you, he's coming upstairs, meeting or no meeting." - extracted from my favourite website, www.wikipedia.org

And on this note, I want to extend special thanks to Mr A for the wonderful chat over coffee, which we managed to cover a wide spectrum of topics and ridiculous analysis, and for introducing what is appearing to be a hilarious book! AND.... believe it or not, I read the foreward this time! Funny!

"This book is dedicated to all the lovely ladies out there whose stories inspired us to write this book. May we never need to write another one."

Bless!